We spend so much of our time worrying about what other people think of us.
Even though it's completely out of our power, we try to control their opinion of us by twisting ourselves into someone we are not. We shape shift into who we think they want us to be so we will seem more likable. We try to become easier to be around. To put it simply, we people please.
The truth is, other people’s opinions have nothing to do with us and everything to do with them, their past, their judgments, their expectations, their likes, and their dislikes.
I spent 10 years teaching spin classes. My noon class always had a waitlist. I had a handful of students that never missed a class. Ever. And I also had people who would walk out of my class before it was over. The class that some people loved, others hated yet I was the same person for each of them. It was their thoughts about me that were different.
There was absolutely no way I could have pleased each of them and still be myself.
So, why worry about it? The only thing we have control over is our thoughts about their opinion.
“You can be the juiciest peach in the world, but there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches.” -Dita Von Teese
What would happen if you just decided to show up as yourself? No more pretending, no more people pleasing? What if we thought "Here I am. This is the real me. If you like me, great. If not, no harm done. You don't like peaches. No big deal."
When we show up as ourselves, without the worry of what others think -that's when we form true connections.
That is the real work. Being able to let others have their own experience, and thoughts about you is is a game changer.
When you’re okay with others’ opinions of you, that is when your life will change. You will start taking more risks, you will begin to discover who you really are and what is important to you.
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